communicating through the wall

[WalterIII]

I wish there was a better way of understanding what the guy feeding me his cock is wanting. Sometimes the guy pulls his cock away, is he unhappy or is it so good he doesn't want to come too quick? Yesterday I had two of three men I sucked pull away and then sit down for a couple of minutes. Then they stood again and I finished them off. What does that mean? WTF

Some guys I will suck until I'm wearing down and then add my thumb and forefinger to slide along the base very gently in sync with my mouth. Always, always I keep my tongue swishing back and forth on the underside and that seems to be appreciated. In other words, as I'm going up and down I'm simultaneously swishing my tongue back and forth so its somewhat of a zigzag. If I have to rest my neck I will still maintain the tongue motion. I have found from watching glory hole videos that it is actually beneficial to pull off completely for a few seconds every minute or so until you are in the push for the finish. Now adding in my hand may sound like a step down, but while I'm in the booth I'm using lubricant on my own cock was well, so by the time I'm working my hand on him my hand is very soft, smooth, and warm and slick like a pussy. (I always pass them an alcohol towelette afterwards to clean lubricant from their cock.)I try to mimic a pussy feel because I focus on straight guys and I think that's what they want. (I judge straightness by a combination of appearance and what videos they selected to watch, not foolproof). But if they're still not coming I will go firmer and faster and firmer still and faster still until its insane and usually they will come but sometimes even this won't make them come.

What is perfect cocksucking to one guy is poor cocksucking to another guy. Wouldn't it be great if every guy could review your skills on a form and rate you so you could improve and know where you stand? I want to be the best.

[bjbud4u]

You're too funny. A rating form. What a gr8 idea. . . . lol
I am with you on everything you say here. Since it is nearly impossible to verbally communicate thru a gh wall . . . it's important to use your senses. It's easy to tell what they like by their responses. When you are ready to go for your creamy reward - just amp up on the techniques they liked the best. For instance my fav technique is to go totally deep and then bob up-n-down deep in my throat. That usually gets a very positive verbal response. And btw - it's my fav way to receive my creamy reward too.
I don't worry about a guy pulling back because he's not ready to deliver yet. For a while that is. You can also detect if you're doing something that is bringing him too close too fast and back off of that technique. If he gets really ridiculous about it - just grab him by the balls and go to town til you get what he came for. . . . . lol
Personally - I hate having to use my hand because i hate having a cocksucker do that to me. The way I look at it is: Hell, I can do that by myself. I want a hot hungry mouth on my dick at a g-hole. But sometimes . . I know . . it is necessary. What I really hate and would never invite a guy back again for is. . . a dude who is a control freak - and just can't let someone else work his load out. He has to jack the jizz outta his own dick. Fuck That!

[prgbp]

Grab him by the balls and hold him in place until you get your reward!

[WalterIII]

Originally Posted by bjbud4u

You're too funny. A rating form. What a gr8 idea. . . . lol
I am with you on everything you say here. Since it is nearly impossible to verbally communicate thru a gh wall . . . it's important to use your senses. It's easy to tell what they like by their responses. When you are ready to go for your creamy reward - just amp up on the techniques they liked the best. For instance my fav technique is to go totally deep and then bob up-n-down deep in my throat. That usually gets a very positive verbal response. And btw - it's my fav way to receive my creamy reward too.
I don't worry about a guy pulling back because he's not ready to deliver yet. For a while that is. You can also detect if you're doing something that is bringing him too close too fast and back off of that technique. If he gets really ridiculous about it - just grab him by the balls and go to town til you get what he came for. . . . . lol
Personally - I hate having to use my hand because i hate having a cocksucker do that to me. The way I look at it is: Hell, I can do that by myself. I want a hot hungry mouth on my dick at a g-hole. But sometimes . . I know . . it is necessary. What I really hate and would never invite a guy back again for is. . . a dude who is a control freak - and just can't let someone else work his load out. He has to jack the jizz outta his own dick. Fuck That!

Its not true that using your own hand on yourself is the same as someone else's hand. For the same reason you can't tickle yourself like someone else can tickle you. The brain knows when you are touching yourself and processes it differently. Most men simply haven't experienced a spectacular hand job from someone else. Prostitutes charge the least for a hand job. Its the least of the sexual experiences according to the unknowledgeable people. In reality, a handjob can be exquisite and last for hours. The key is to do it the way the receiver wants it done, only he can specify it to perfection. There's rarely communication between partners that is that good.

I had a straight guy lined up on Craigslist a month ago who advertised asking for this exact thing and we hit it off and were going to get together and work toward the perfect prolonged hand job, me jacking him. When they shut down personal ads I lost the contact.

[Joeweekend]

Yes, guys who pull back are not wanting to cum yet. Who wants a GH blowjob to end? So give the guy a moment - and keep your open mouth at the hole to tempt him back - but don't get unnecessarily pushy.

When a guy's not cumming, I say it's perfectly fine to add some hand motion to the mix (provided the dick's long enough - or the wall's thin enough) to accommodate.

As for communicating through the hole - it's totally possible. But it really goes against the no-strings anonymity that makes GHing so great.

[Sonny]

There are times when you want to last longer and pull out. Sometimes I don’t want just deep throat, I want the shallow-work-the-head-and-underside thing, then go back to deep throat.
Appreciate the efforts! AND, if you who go down know what you are doing, there is always some form of communication happening!

[WalterIII]

Originally Posted by bjbud4u

You're too funny. A rating form. What a gr8 idea. . . . lol
I am with you on everything you say here. Since it is nearly impossible to verbally communicate thru a gh wall . . . it's important to use your senses. It's easy to tell what they like by their responses. When you are ready to go for your creamy reward - just amp up on the techniques they liked the best. For instance my fav technique is to go totally deep and then bob up-n-down deep in my throat. That usually gets a very positive verbal response. And btw - it's my fav way to receive my creamy reward too.
I don't worry about a guy pulling back because he's not ready to deliver yet. For a while that is. You can also detect if you're doing something that is bringing him too close too fast and back off of that technique. If he gets really ridiculous about it - just grab him by the balls and go to town til you get what he came for. . . . . lol
Personally - I hate having to use my hand because i hate having a cocksucker do that to me. The way I look at it is: Hell, I can do that by myself. I want a hot hungry mouth on my dick at a g-hole. But sometimes . . I know . . it is necessary. What I really hate and would never invite a guy back again for is. . . a dude who is a control freak - and just can't let someone else work his load out. He has to jack the jizz outta his own dick. Fuck That!

Well its interesting how we're all different. I wouldn't mind a guy jacking himself and then shooting into my mouth. I would just assume he knows what has to happen to bring up the load, I wouldn't take it personally myself.

As far as you saying you hate a guy jacking you, that worries me. Are you saying jacking exclusively?, or as I do sometimes, assisting the suck job with thumb and forefinger on the base. I sometimes wonder if they even know there's more than just a mouth on their prick. But I also worry that they know and resent it. Again, the lack of communication is a hindrance. I only want to give ecstatic performance for the man getting sucked. I hate thinking I'm not doing it well.

[bjbud4u]

Originally Posted by WalterIII

As far as you saying you hate a guy jacking you, that worries me. Are you saying jacking exclusively?, or as I do sometimes, assisting the suck job with thumb and forefinger on the base. I sometimes wonder if they even know there's more than just a mouth on their prick. But I also worry that they know and resent it. Again, the lack of communication is a hindrance. I only want to give ecstatic performance for the man getting sucked. I hate thinking I'm not doing it well.

First of all - - I love that you strive to do your very best servicing a str8 mans needy dick. I feel my goal is the same. Let me clarify though . . . I do not mind a hand assisting a hungry mouth as long as the mouth does the majority of the work and is responsible for the creamy finish. And - I will occasionally do the same as a cocksucker - only when I feel it is needed. And - although the "deeepthroat Bob" is my fav technique . . . I always use a variety with each BJ I give. I love tongue action just below the head. . . . mmm. . . (I'm getting hungry). If I am at a gh to receive a bj - and the sucker is just using his hand (I'll give him a min or 2). I move on. Because (for me) that just does not work. Yes - as you pointed out - we are all different. Now - at home I set up a glorychair now and then (less now without CL - Damn Them!). I use a combo of my hungry mouth/throat and I like to use a JO toy. I like a short version of a fleshlight - cause I like to mouth or at least tongue the dickhead as it pops thru with each stroke - and make sure I don't miss the reward in case it happens with the toy use. I am not "judging" other cocksuckers techniques. I am just stating what works for me. As a cocksucker - if what I offer up to a hard meaty dick at a gh doesn't work for it's owner - I respect his desire to move on til he finds what he needs. (btw - that hardly ever happens). And I just say . . . . . "NEXT!"

[WalterIII]

Originally Posted by bjbud4u

First of all - - I love that you strive to do your very best servicing a str8 mans needy dick. I feel my goal is the same. Let me clarify though . . . I do not mind a hand assisting a hungry mouth as long as the mouth does the majority of the work and is responsible for the creamy finish. And - I will occasionally do the same as a cocksucker - only when I feel it is needed. And - although the "deeepthroat Bob" is my fav technique . . . I always use a variety with each BJ I give. I love tongue action just below the head. . . . mmm. . . (I'm getting hungry). If I am at a gh to receive a bj - and the sucker is just using his hand (I'll give him a min or 2). I move on. Because (for me) that just does not work. Yes - as you pointed out - we are all different. Now - at home I set up a glorychair now and then (less now without CL - Damn Them!). I use a combo of my hungry mouth/throat and I like to use a JO toy. I like a short version of a fleshlight - cause I like to mouth or at least tongue the dickhead as it pops thru with each stroke - and make sure I don't miss the reward in case it happens with the toy use. I am not "judging" other cocksuckers techniques. I am just stating what works for me. As a cocksucker - if what I offer up to a hard meaty dick at a gh doesn't work for it's owner - I respect his desire to move on til he finds what he needs. (btw - that hardly ever happens). And I just say . . . . . "NEXT!"

The "deep throat Bob" I'm just becoming aware of. I had not thought of holding the deep throat position with short oscillations. (This stuff needs to be documented, guys, preferably in software with a revision control system. We're a technological people, after all.)

When a guy blows his load in the deep throat position it sometimes shoots down either pipe, sometimes making me cough(which I used to think was a phony literary device for exaggerating the blast), and once in awhile I've even had it shoot back up into my nasal passage which I love. I have a love/hate relationship with the forceful blast that gets past my tongue. I love it because its sperm, but I hate that its a squirt that won't add to the load I hold in my mouth and taste. Usually I hold a guys load, the bigger the better, in my mouth for five to ten minutes and jack with my eyes closed in the booth. But the longer you hold it the more of my own saliva is in it and I want it pure, so sometimes I'll swallow sooner. Other times I will spit it into my hand right off and smell and kiss it and smear it on my face. Sometimes I will cup my balls with it in my left hand and smear it all over my sack while I jack to orgasm. I love knowing his sperm is on my ballsack. But that's my sentimental side.

[bjbud4u]

Just a reminder that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to suck cock. It's HOT to hear about every ones techniques and what works and doesn't in different situations. Although I've been at this for decades . . . I still manage to pick up pointers now and then in places like this and xtube.