@baker - that sounds great!
i haven't had the best of luck with doublelist, but that's mostly because their filtered word list, and what's permissible, seems to change daily.
i recently lost my first regular. i didn't know that the last time was going to be the LAST time, when he texted me that he shouldn't be visiting, since he just got engaged, but... i've tried to hit him up a couple times since, and there hasn't been any replies.